The Power of Habit

Assalamualaikum and hi!


Hows your ramadhan so far?? Hopes everything ok. I am still struggling here. Get adjusted with new timetable, new time zone (well, one month dah balik ok. Hoho), new room, new yadaa yadaa.

Enough with the excuses, dear.

Habit.
I have this habit and I have just figure it out that I have it! Erk. Or memang buat-buat tak tahu. Hahaha.

Habit of sleeping with books! Any kind of books. Be it medical books or storybooks or etc. I have just realized that I always have books next to me. It is not that I read before I go to sleep or after I wake up.

Ramadhan books! or this summer books (plus medical books yang bertimbun -_-')

Oh, and the books are next to me ON THE BED. Isn't that strange?                              

Ouh if you say I don't have enough bookshelves, na ah you are wrong. I have 5 bookshelves next to my bed and which 1 of it is half empty. So, there should be no excuse for me not to put it back on the shelves. But I don't know why I keep on put it on the bed. 

seeeeee, it is half full or quarter full, maybe. Ehehs 

My mum first realized it when I choose to sleep peacefully *merengkok* then remove the books. Hurm, I don't find it a problem though. *senang nak share katil ni. Hehe. Except rebut selimut. Ops. Ouh books tak rebut selimut ok*

Thats my habit since few years ago I think.

So, my not-so-little-brother share with me about the power of habit. He read this book entitled The Power of Habit. Yeah, you read it right. And it is kinda interesting. *thinking of borrow from him but he left it in UK. Urgh. Fine*

So, here is his review. Credit to him :)

[ The Power of Habit ]
Umur 30-an bukan umur 20. Your 20's will determine how is your life in the 30's. And your life in the 30's will define your life in the 40's and till you die.
Charles Duhigg mengkaji faktor-faktor pembentukan habit/kebiasaan dan juga cara-cara untuk mengubah atau membentuk kebiasaan yang baru menggunakan the golden rule of habit. Cue -> Routine -> Rewards.

Sesetengah perkara yang kita lakukan sebenarnya hasil dari subconscious mind kita aka automatik tanpa perlu berfikir panjang. Ingat Zaman mula-mula nak belajar memandu? Banyak sangat routine yang perlu dibuat sebelum, semasa dan selepas memandu. Tapi apabila kita dah belajar semua itu, reward dia, kita boleh travel dari satu tempat ke tempat lain. Dan kita dah tak perlu fikir dah rutin2 tu. Menjadi otomatik.
Tu contoh yang simple.

Material/teknologi Zaman sekarang banyak menggunakan psikologi habit, dan pengaruh hormon supaya pengguna keep on using produk mereka, sehingga menjadi satu habit.
Well, orang kata habit dan kebiasaan kamu itu ialah kehidupan kamu.
Charles Duhigg menyentuh bukan sahaja dari aspek individu, malah juga kebiasaan dalam organisasi, penyelesaian alcoholism dan addiction.
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Dari satu segi, boleh kaitkan dengan beberapa perkara dalam Islam sendiri.
1. Semua benda bergantung kepada niat. Dan niat akan bergantung kepada iman seseorang. Iman dan niat yang baik, insyaAllah kebiasaan dan habit akan jadi baik dan positif. Namun, tidak semudah A,B,C untuk laksanakan.
2. Nabi kata, Allah suka benda yang sedikit tapi istiqamah. Dari satu segi, boleh faham bila benda baik yang sedikit itu sudah dilakukan selalu, itu menjadi sebahagian rutin kehidupan individu itu tersebut.
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Isn't it interesting? Go and find the book now!! Ehehs. 

Here is the book!

Well, so my habit of putting books next to me so that I read more and more books, *subconsciously* but it turns out I am only half way finish most of the books. sigh. The habit just makes me feel easy. Not good, dear not good. So, this Ramadhan, lets strive to finish it all! Bring it on!

Conclusion: as long as the habit brings you closer to Him, The Almighty, bring it on! But if it brings you away from Him, think again. We can change. Istiqamah itu mudah :)


Lot 2740
0820
4 Ramadhan 1436H

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Meh rasa festive skit. ehehs.

Ramadhan mubarak, peeps!

For this coming holy month, I would like to apologize for any wrongdoings, any heartache, etc. I am sorry. And I'm forgive you. Lets forgive each other, aite. :) Allah is The Most Forgiving - Al-Ghafur, Al-Ghaffar, Al-Ghafir, then why not I forgive you and myself?

May Allah accepts our deeds - dulu dan selamanya! amin!

 ..... lets the battle begin! *especially for non-morning people like me. ehehs*

Talking about morning people. My vows since winter holidays, I will stay awake after subuh! ohoo but since coming back to Malaysia.....sobs sobs. Oh well, sleepyhead. For coming Ramadhan, I would not give in. Yosh! Berusaha! *I know I know I keep on saying this for ages. huhu.*

Never give up, shall we ;)

So, here is my resolution.

1 - self-control
2- self -conscious a.k.a more God-conscious.

Yosh!

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الصِّيَامُ كَمَا كُتِبَ عَلَى الَّذِينَ مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

“Hai orang-orang yang beriman, diwajibkan atas kamu berpuasa sebagaimana diwajibkan atas orang-orang sebelum kamu agar kamu bertakwa.” (al-Baqarah: 183)

Bukanlah puasa itu (hanya) menahan diri dari makan dan minum. Sebaliknya ia juga harus tertahan dari perkara lagha dan lucah. Apabila kamu dimaki atau diperbodohkan, berkatalah AKU BERPUASA (riwayat Ibn Khuzaimah dan al-Hakim / Sahih al-Targhib 1068)

Lot 2740
1745
30 Sya'ban 1436H


List of interesting article to prepare yourself for the battle :) *my favorite <3 p="">
1) Sakit Di Sebalik Keluhang 'Orang Baik-Baik'
2) Mengapa Ramadhan Kita Tidak Berkesan 
3) Ramadhan: Di Sebalik Kehebatan Tawaran Itu
4) Fasting In Ramadhan: Stronger or Sleepier
5) Ramadhan Bulan Mengasah Gergaji
6) Ramadhan Merawat Latah Pendakwah dan Peminat Siasah

Pyromania or conduct disorder?

Salam and hi!

I am currently studying on child psychiatric. Kinda interesting. Why? because we often see that character in child (oh well, I have 20 nieces and nephews. so, you can imagine that I can relate it)

The thing about child psychiatric is it is only diagnose when the kids have number of criteria or excessively or inappropriately. But having said that, it is so difficult to diagnose a child with hyperactive or autism or conduct disorder if it is just culturally accepted. You know what I mean right. You can't simply said a child is ADHD according to DMS or ICD yadaa yadaa and it turns out, "ouh, thats normal", "not worrying at all" (according to the mother) As our culture (malaysia's culture) psychiatric is a taboo = a big NO NO = craziness = mental problem. Hence, the mother choose to say, "ala, budak-budak biasa laa" Not going to refer to any child psychiatric which might be reasonable if there is no problem. But can you imagine if the child left untreated = DUP (Duration of Untreated Psychosis) = prodromal state.

Long Duration of Untreated Psychosis (DUP) leads to poorer outcomes (Larsen et al 1996, Scully et al 1997)

This long DUP is very serious. It may lead to academic failure, might develop schizophrenia, behavior problem etc.

I might be over generalized here. I don't have any data or research paper etc on that argument for Malaysians. It is totally base on my observation and conversation with Malaysians mothers. Anyway, while studying on conduct disorder, it reminds me on this event. Childhood memory.

Before that, in case you don't know,

“Conduct disorder is a repetitive and persistent pattern of behaviour in which the basic rights of others or major age-appropriate societal norms or rules are violated”

To diagnose a kid with this disorder, he or she must have at least 3 of the following symptoms for 12 months -

• Aggression to people or animals e.g. bullying /uses weapon /threatens others/ Fights /Stealing / forced sexual activity
• Destruction to property e.g. fire setting or non fire setting
• Deceitful or theft
• Serious violation of rules - stays out at night/ runs away /truant

ok thats sound sooo wordy.I am not going to give you lecture on this. ehehs.

Straight to the story.

Back in 1999, *giteww* I have this classmate. Well, he looked normal, acting normal, looks cute *ok main-main,* But one evening, our school guard found him trying to set FIRE on our CLASS! Not trying, but he was actually doing it. On the next day, we went to school, we could see burn trace *is it even a word?*. Geee. and according to gossipers, he want to burn the class because he hate our class teacher. Why? I don't know. Thank God, the school guard found him, if not, the whole class will be burnt! I have no idea how the school handle that. What I know, he was transferred to other school. *was not sure if he was kicked out from our school, or he was actually transferred*

So, he has one known criteria of conduct disorder.Destruction of property. Only God knows, if he has other criteria. - . But I know he was not aggressive to people. He was nice. 

and he was only 9 years-old. 

Another conduct-disorder-related-story, when I was a prefect in primary school, I did caught a junior (aged 7-8 years-old) stealing things from our co-op. She was caught red handed. I remember following her and talked to her about stealing bla bla but I can't remember what I did next. -_-' too old to remember. But the point is, it is very serious. 

If these two people really have conduct disorder and left undiagnosed/untreated, they may develop antisocial personality disorder when they grew up. And you know how dangerous this personality disorder is, very dangerous. They can forms but cannot maintain relationship, they are irresponsible, guiltless, heartless, easily lost temper, and blame other people for their own fault. They are people who are usually targeted by police because they always involve in violence.

So, if you say someone is bad, it could be due to their history- untreated/undiagnosed conduct disorder. Who's fault? the parent/ the prefect like me/ the society who fails to recognize the symptoms and refer to psychiatric. 

And why the kids acting like that? there are numerous reasons - biological causes or physiological causes. - low IQ, family history of antisocial behaviour, lack of warm parental relationship, large family size (i'm disagree on this. I have 10 siblings and I am good. hahhaha), domestic chaos, parental criminality, exposure to abuse and societal violence, school failure.

It is not the end for this child. There are lots of ways to deal with them. They are might be sooo difficult to deal but take time to listen and pray. Because Allah is the one who hold our hearts. 

Conclusion - pilihlah suami/isteri yang menjaga agama dan keturuan yang baik. Ehehs, Just joking.

Be careful when we are dealing with kids like this. 

Love them.

Talk to them.

Refer to a right person.

Rumahku syurgaku.

Safety first. 

Lot 2740

1823

29 Sya'ban 1436H

Aggressive to animals? Gee, how could you if the cat as cute as this. *gerammm*  Lols >.<