Whatever. Malaih nak pikiaq.

What would society think?

As I grew older, i realize something. It does matter to a person what a society would think. Because thats had been taught *informally*  since we were small.  Disclaimer: This is a generalization of the current generation. Some might not think that way.

It is 1 syawal, eid celebration and we meet lots of people. So, at my age, there are tons of questions and i do realize people will give the best answer that will satisfy the society. Do u know what i mean? 

Example between an aunt (A) and a not so old and not so young women (W)

A: belajar kat mana?

W: University

A: oversea kaa?

W:  aah

A: wahhhh course apa?

W: medic

A: bila nak habih?

W: tak lama dah

Oh well, it is a fact that she is studying medicine abroad, not a lie. But at one point i dont think those questions appropriate in our society anymore. I know it is kind of breaking the ice, catch up things, etc2 but those questions encourage the society to think a proper education is everything! Neglecting the skills, interpersonal skills, critical thinking, and tons of other abilities that makes the diversity! 

It is sort of instill in the children mind that those As are as important as everything else! And get into a university is the ultimate goal.  And when he/she didn't perform in school, the first thing that strike - KALAU orang tanya macam mana?? Heck! Don't think about what others think! Just do your best and if u didn't perform it is not the end of the world! Life is not just about books! 

Just do good in whatever you do, for ummah's benefit in the future.  Not to impress the society.  Benefit and impress are two different words/actions.

Just get your intention correct. Niat. 

Lillahita'ala. not because of the society or family or parents. But for the religion. For Him, The Almighty. 

Another fav question. Marriage.

Bila nak kawen? Bila nak buat majlis? 

I know i did ask this kind of question a lot to my friends and seniors. Kinda teasing. *shouldn't :( * *muhasabah*

Indeed marriage is a good thing. Never disagree on that. But THE act of asking that question  is not a good thing! Why? The question is kinda urge u to get married regardless who the future husband/wife is.  The main thing about the marriage is not just the kenduri thingy, it is more than that! And the question shouldn't be ask recklessly. 

I know some might think alaaa soalan nak kenen2kan ke. Ok. If thats the case, go on. Maybe u want to know whether he/she has somebody or not. Then, make sure there is an action, not just asking for the sake of teasing or break the ice. I know i did that sometimes. It is because I am so get used of accepting that kind of questions and I think it is ok. But today I think again. It might be ok for me because I know my family would not allow me to get married soon. So I have answers to all those questions. But for those who are graduating/working/ studying but parents allow to get married and doesn't have anyone to get married to, it would be something depressing when receiving those questions. And we don't want to make the situation awkward or disappoint the person who ask, so we will think the best answer without hurting the one who asked. 

Copyright: Qabsah Anisah

Instead of thinking the answer, lets stop doing that to others. Both two questions are my fav question too. Never disagree on that. *Sigh*. But maybe this Syawal will become my turning point. Instead of ask those questions, why not asking something better. 

"Apa khabar KL? Any good improvement in crime rates?"

" makin banyak tembak menembak, macam mana ni?"

"Majlis ilmu dekat JB amacam?"

"How's the culture oversea? How they accept u guys yang pakai tudung?"
"Dah baca buku ni? baguih ni"

Soalan ummah. 

Bila makin tua.

With great power comes great responsibility

Abu Hurairah relates that Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said;" Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his neighbor. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest" [Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim]

p/s it is a generalization. Some people just ignore the questions and malaih nak pikiaq, but some yes. Like me, a perfect melancholic personality. I tend to think more. Even on a small thing. hoho. Perfectionist katakan. Lols. 

1 Syawal 1434H

Open house rumah kak Yong. 

The road not taken

"Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth; 

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day! 
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."
-Robert Frost

I walked down the street. Towards the beach. With headphone on my ears, At full volume.
Walking. walking and walking. Alone.

My mind goes wild.
Thinking how grateful I am.
I have everything I NEED. Indeed not everything I want.
But thats enough for me to survive.
On this road, the road not taken.

My mum once said, " why you choose medicine? You looks passionate on tech more"

But I choose the road not taken.
I did well in Physics, then Biology in secondary school.
I did well in Maths, then Biology or Chemistry in college.
But I still choose this path.
The road not taken.
as Robert Frost said, I doubted if I should ever come back.

If you ask me, Do I ever feel scared?
I'm lying if I said no.
I'm scare.
Scare of losing everything.
Scare of disappoint people I love.
Scare of debt.

And I'm wonder, how the Eygptians, the Palestenians, the Syrians face everyday?
They losing everything, everyday.
Shelters, family, money, food
And no one knows what will happen on the next day.

While sitting on a rock at the seaside,an Irish men came and smile at me.
" It is a nice weather, yah. Appreciate each moment you have in life, lad""
  Yup.
Whichever road you take, appreciate the scenery, the moment.
Because you never know when will you ever come back.
Thank you Allah for giving me the chance, the opportunity.

I keep asking myself.
"Where goes wrong?" "What are the things that I missed?"
Later, I realized. Instead of asking that, why not this
"Where should I start afresh?" "What are the things I need for the future?"
I look on my wall. 
A big poster - 
"NEVER LOOK AT WHAT YOU'VE LOST, ALWAYS LOOK AT WHAT YOU'VE GOT"
*slap* *wake up girl*

"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!" - Rocky Balboa

 How much you can take, how much you can get hit and keep moving forward.
Keep moving forward.

Giant's Causeway. Long time ago. Searching for peace and serenity.

He is the Most Merciful of the Merciful. Believe in Him.


Salthill.
21 Syawal 1434H

Ibu, Mak, Mama, Mami, Bonda, Mom,

Assalamualaikum and hi!

I have actually wrote this post in my ipod. but i lost it. So, here it goes. rewrite it all over again. *sigh* never mind. This is actually good. Keep me busy. hoho.

It was last month. On the way back from picking up my brother at the airport. I was sleeping and my mum was driving. My brother tried to stay awake to accompanied her. It was a 2 hour journey during fasting month. So, you know how tired it is. hehe. *alasan =P*

it wasn't long before I was suddenly woke up. Kinda weird when a sleepyhead can wake up by herself. LOLS. *my brother-in-law keep on teasing me about this. oh, not just him, but the whole family!* it is in my gene you know. hahaha. Forget it. Back to the story. After I woke up, I don't know why, it was inside me saying, 'go and offer to drive' and yeah, i did that. I drove home and my mum fell asleep at the back of the car. *gee, i didn't know she was so sleepy. Lucky I made that decision.

When we arrived home, we have this kind of conversation. between me and my mum.

Mom:     thank you for driving home

Me :       no problem. I didn't know you are that tired. I would offer it earlier

Mom :     you didn't know? *ask with a curious face*

Me:        yah, I didn't know

Mom:     so, why do u offer to drive?

Me :     oh well, just feel want to drive. hehe * plus, it is a new car, haven't got a chance to drive that yet*

Mom:   Wow. DId you  know, before you wake up, I was thinking to ask you to drive. Just inside my head. 

Me:        well, your wish has been granted by Him, the Almighty, Mum *grin*

Mom:      I should be careful of what I wish for 

End of that story. This is not the first time. There are several episodes of this, not just between us but between my other siblings too.I watched with my own eyes. Indeed, mother's prayers are powerful. The famous Si Tenggang story is not just a story.  It is a story with full of moral and advice. To be more real, just sit down and have a nice talk with your mum. Then you will know what is inside her heart and try to link with couple of events. If you still don't believe, read this story, sirah at the end of this post.  *malay la tapi and agak panjang but meaningful* 

My advice my dear friends and readers: Do good to your parents as long as they are still alive and be dutiful to them as long as not against the religion. Be patience. 

May Allah bless you!

ini belum jadi mak. ini orang berlagak jadi mak. haha. one day, sister, one day. amin. 

The seerah ----------

Juraij Al-Abid adalah salah seorang ahli ibadah yang soleh di kalangan Bani Israil. Awal mulanya dia adalah seorang pedagang, kemudian dia meninggalkan perdagangannya dan cenderung kepada ibadah. Dia membangunkan sebuah tempat ibadah untuk beribadah kepada Allah di dalamnya. Dia beruzlah dari manusia, dan inilah rahbaniyah di mana Allah dan Rasulullah melarang kita untuk menjadikannya sebagai cara hidup.

Juraij mempunyai seorang ibu yang solehah. Pada suatu hari si ibu datang untuk mengunjungi anaknya dan ingin berbincang dengannya. Si ibunya datang dan memanggilnya. Pada ketika itu dia sedang solat, maka dia lebih mengutamakan solatnya daripada menjawab panggilan ibunya.

Esok harinya ibu mengulangi panggilannya, begitu pula di hari ketiga. Nasibnya pada kali kedua dan ketiga tidaklah lebih baik daripada nasibnya di kali pertama. Kerana itu ibu Juraij marah, lalu dia berdoa atasnya dan Allah mengabulkan doanya. Ibu Juraij berdoa agar Allah tidak mematikannya hingga menjadikannya melihat wajah pelacur.

Allah telah menyiapkan sebab-sebabnya dengan mengutus seorang pelacur untuk merayu dan menggodanya. Penyebabnya adalah bahawa Bani Israil cemburu dengan kebaikan dan ibadah Juraij. Maka wanita ini begitu meragui Juraij, kesolehan dan ketaqwaannya. Dia yakin  bahawa jika dia yang merayunya, maka Juraij akan bertekuk lutut dan jatuh seperti yang lain. Wanita ini begitu percaya diri dengan alasan kecantikannya dan berdasarkan hadis disebutkan bahawa mereka telah memilih wanita ini kerana kecantikan dan kemolekannya. Orang-orang yang terjerumus ke dalam lumpur kenistaan mengira bahawa semua manusia adalah seperti yang mereka kenal. Mereka tidak menyangka bahawa di antara manusia terdapat hamba Allah yang menjauhi kenikmatan dunia yang hanya sementara dan tidak abadi, juga bahawa terdapat di kalangan mereka orang-orang yang beriman dan bertaqwa yang terpelihara sehingga tidak terjerumus ke dalam kenistaan dan perbuatan keji.

Di antara mereka adalah Nabiyullah Yusuf As. yang menjadi tauladan dan Al-Qur'an telah menyampaikan kisahnya. Lalu si Juraij yang digoda oleh wanita pelacur itu langsung tidak dipedulikannya, tidak tergoda dan terus khusyuk dalam ibadah dan solatnya, seolah-olah dia tidak melihat dan menyaksikannya.

Si pelacur itu amat kecewa dengan tindakan Juraij yang tidak tergoda dengan pujuk rayunya. Sekarang, dia pulang dengan tangan kosong. Keinginannya gagal dan impiannya kandas. Dengan itu, si pelacur telah mengambil keputusan untuk tetap menfitnah Juraij. Ini karena dia telah berjanji kepada orang-orang yang memperkatakan kebaikan Juraij agar ia memfitnahnya dan menjerumuskannya ke dalam pelukannya.

Oleh sebab itu, dia membuat rancangan besar terhadap Juraij. Wanita ini telah pergi kepada seorang penggembala yang menginap berhampiran tempat ibadat Juraij. Dia menginap bersamanya dan berbuat onar dengannya. Hasilnya, dia hamil. Dan apabila bayi itu dilahirkan, dia mengatakan bahawa bayi itu adalah hasil perbuatan Juraij ahli ibadah.

Juraijlah pelaku perbuatan buruk ini. Ini bererti Juraij beribadah secara dusta, kebaikannya hanyalah sekadar pemanis yang palsu. Betapa sedih dan marahnya orang-orang kampung kerana mereka percaya kepadanya atas kebaikan, ketaqwaan dan keteguhan beragama, kemudian ternyata sebaliknya. Orang-orang yang mereka percayai hanya serigala berbulu domba atau musang berbulu ayam untuk menipu orang-orang bodoh. Maka, mereka pun menentangnya, sebagaimana orang-orang yang memperlakukan rahib yang diceritakan oleh Salman ketika dia mengambil dan menimbun harta sedekah mereka. Mereka menyalibnya setelah dia mati dan menolak menguburkannya.

Penduduk kampung mendatangi Juraij dengan kemarahan yang memuncak di hati. Mereka meminta Juraij turun dan meninggalkan ibadah dustanya. Tetapi Juraij tidak menghiraukan panggilan mereka kerana dia terus larut dalam ibadah dan solatnya. Pada saat itu dengan segala kelengkapan yang ada mereka merobohkan tempat ibadat Juraij. Melihat keadaan itu Juraij pun keluar untuk menemui mereka. Akibatnya, mereka telah memaki dan memukulnya.

Ketika Juraij bertanya tentang alasan kemarahannya, mereka menceritakan tentang perbuatan Juraij. Mereka meminta agar Juraij bertanya kepada wanita yang telah mengakui apa yang dia akui itu. Juraij tersenyum mendengar ucapan mereka. Dia benar dalam ibadahnya, jujur dalam istiqamahnya. Dia yakin tidak melakukan seperti tuduhan mereka. Tuduhan wanita hina itu hanyalah dusta yang terbuka. Juraij meminta kepada orang-orang yang marah agar memberinya peluang untuk berwudhu dan solat sebentar. Selesai solat dia mendatangi bayi yang baru dilahirkan beberapa jam atau beberapa hari. Juraij menusuk perutnya sambil bertanya, sementara orang-orang terdiam, "Siapa bapamu?"

Sebuah ayat Allah yang menunjukkan kepada-Nya dan kepada besarnya kudrat-Nya, bayi itu berbicara dengan suara yang terdengar, ucapan yang jelas dan difahami. Bayi itu menjawab, "Bapaku adalah fulan pengembala kambing." Orang-orang menyedari besarnya kejahatan mereka terhadap seorang hamba soleh. Mereka mengetahui bahwa Juraij tidak termasuk dalam tuduhan itu. Juraij bukanlah seorang penipu, dia benar dalam ibadah dan kesolehannya, dan bahwa wanita inilah yang telah berdusta dengan menuduh Juraij. Mereka menyedari bahawa mereka telah terburu-buru mempercayai tuduhan itu, sebagaimana mereka telah memukul Juraij dan merobohkan tempat ibadatnya. Orang-orang itu rasa bersalah pada Juraij. Mereka menawarkan kepadanya untuk membangunkan tempat ibadahnya dari emas atau perak tetapi Juraij menolaknya. Dia meminta supaya tempat ibadahnya dikembalikan dengan tanah seperti sedia kala. Mereka melakukan seperti yang diminta Juraij. Setelah selesai Juraij masuk kembali untuk beribadah kepada Tuhannya.

Allah telah memakbulkan doa ibu Juraij pada Juraij. Akan tetapi Allah menyelamatkannya dengan kesolehan dan ketaqwaannya. Terdapat dua pelajaran yang berharga pada dikabulkannya doa ibu Juraij dan selamatnya Juraij.

(Kisah diatas diambil dari hadis yang diriwayatkan oleh Bukhari Muslim dalam sahihnya dari Abu Hurairah. Hadis di dalam Sahih Bukhari dalam Kitab Ahadisil Anbiya’, bab firman Allah, "Dan sebutlah Maryam dalam Al-Kitab." (QS. Maryam: 16), 6/476, no. 3436. Dan diriwayatkan oleh Muslim dalam Kitabul Bir Was Shilah, bab mendahulukan Birrul Walidain di atas solat sunnah, 4/1976, no. 2550.)

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