The word success has 2 Cs no A

"workaholics vs workafrolic"

"work tops talent"

"most successful not the smartest but they work the hardest"

""If you're going to be successful in anything, the key thing is work hard"

"untuk berjaya tidak semestinya perlu intelligent. Orang yang rasa dia pandai, kurang berjaya kerana akan berhenti belajar. Kunci kejayaan adalah disiplin" - Prof Dr Muhaya.

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Sesungghnya Allah tidak akan mengubah nasib sesuatu kaum kecuali kaum itu sendiri yang mengubah apa-apa yang ada pada diri mereka

Ar-Rad;11

From the book Terapi Berfikir Positif by Dr Ibrahim Elfiky. He keeps on saying those verses thousand times in order to have a positive mind. Indeed, you can do that!

p/s Hello September! Class has started. so, it means, busy busy busy days! May Allah ease :) pray pray and ask from Him!

Whatever. Malaih nak pikiaq.

What would society think?

As I grew older, i realize something. It does matter to a person what a society would think. Because thats had been taught *informally*  since we were small.  Disclaimer: This is a generalization of the current generation. Some might not think that way.

It is 1 syawal, eid celebration and we meet lots of people. So, at my age, there are tons of questions and i do realize people will give the best answer that will satisfy the society. Do u know what i mean? 

Example between an aunt (A) and a not so old and not so young women (W)

A: belajar kat mana?

W: University

A: oversea kaa?

W:  aah

A: wahhhh course apa?

W: medic

A: bila nak habih?

W: tak lama dah

Oh well, it is a fact that she is studying medicine abroad, not a lie. But at one point i dont think those questions appropriate in our society anymore. I know it is kind of breaking the ice, catch up things, etc2 but those questions encourage the society to think a proper education is everything! Neglecting the skills, interpersonal skills, critical thinking, and tons of other abilities that makes the diversity! 

It is sort of instill in the children mind that those As are as important as everything else! And get into a university is the ultimate goal.  And when he/she didn't perform in school, the first thing that strike - KALAU orang tanya macam mana?? Heck! Don't think about what others think! Just do your best and if u didn't perform it is not the end of the world! Life is not just about books! 

Just do good in whatever you do, for ummah's benefit in the future.  Not to impress the society.  Benefit and impress are two different words/actions.

Just get your intention correct. Niat. 

Lillahita'ala. not because of the society or family or parents. But for the religion. For Him, The Almighty. 

Another fav question. Marriage.

Bila nak kawen? Bila nak buat majlis? 

I know i did ask this kind of question a lot to my friends and seniors. Kinda teasing. *shouldn't :( * *muhasabah*

Indeed marriage is a good thing. Never disagree on that. But THE act of asking that question  is not a good thing! Why? The question is kinda urge u to get married regardless who the future husband/wife is.  The main thing about the marriage is not just the kenduri thingy, it is more than that! And the question shouldn't be ask recklessly. 

I know some might think alaaa soalan nak kenen2kan ke. Ok. If thats the case, go on. Maybe u want to know whether he/she has somebody or not. Then, make sure there is an action, not just asking for the sake of teasing or break the ice. I know i did that sometimes. It is because I am so get used of accepting that kind of questions and I think it is ok. But today I think again. It might be ok for me because I know my family would not allow me to get married soon. So I have answers to all those questions. But for those who are graduating/working/ studying but parents allow to get married and doesn't have anyone to get married to, it would be something depressing when receiving those questions. And we don't want to make the situation awkward or disappoint the person who ask, so we will think the best answer without hurting the one who asked. 

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Instead of thinking the answer, lets stop doing that to others. Both two questions are my fav question too. Never disagree on that. *Sigh*. But maybe this Syawal will become my turning point. Instead of ask those questions, why not asking something better. 

"Apa khabar KL? Any good improvement in crime rates?"

" makin banyak tembak menembak, macam mana ni?"

"Majlis ilmu dekat JB amacam?"

"How's the culture oversea? How they accept u guys yang pakai tudung?"
"Dah baca buku ni? baguih ni"

Soalan ummah. 

Bila makin tua.

With great power comes great responsibility

Abu Hurairah relates that Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said;" Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his neighbor. And whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should show hospitality to his guest" [Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim]

p/s it is a generalization. Some people just ignore the questions and malaih nak pikiaq, but some yes. Like me, a perfect melancholic personality. I tend to think more. Even on a small thing. hoho. Perfectionist katakan. Lols. 

1 Syawal 1434H

Open house rumah kak Yong. 

The road not taken

"Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth; 

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day! 
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."
-Robert Frost

I walked down the street. Towards the beach. With headphone on my ears, At full volume.
Walking. walking and walking. Alone.

My mind goes wild.
Thinking how grateful I am.
I have everything I NEED. Indeed not everything I want.
But thats enough for me to survive.
On this road, the road not taken.

My mum once said, " why you choose medicine? You looks passionate on tech more"

But I choose the road not taken.
I did well in Physics, then Biology in secondary school.
I did well in Maths, then Biology or Chemistry in college.
But I still choose this path.
The road not taken.
as Robert Frost said, I doubted if I should ever come back.

If you ask me, Do I ever feel scared?
I'm lying if I said no.
I'm scare.
Scare of losing everything.
Scare of disappoint people I love.
Scare of debt.

And I'm wonder, how the Eygptians, the Palestenians, the Syrians face everyday?
They losing everything, everyday.
Shelters, family, money, food
And no one knows what will happen on the next day.

While sitting on a rock at the seaside,an Irish men came and smile at me.
" It is a nice weather, yah. Appreciate each moment you have in life, lad""
  Yup.
Whichever road you take, appreciate the scenery, the moment.
Because you never know when will you ever come back.
Thank you Allah for giving me the chance, the opportunity.

I keep asking myself.
"Where goes wrong?" "What are the things that I missed?"
Later, I realized. Instead of asking that, why not this
"Where should I start afresh?" "What are the things I need for the future?"
I look on my wall. 
A big poster - 
"NEVER LOOK AT WHAT YOU'VE LOST, ALWAYS LOOK AT WHAT YOU'VE GOT"
*slap* *wake up girl*

"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!" - Rocky Balboa

 How much you can take, how much you can get hit and keep moving forward.
Keep moving forward.

Giant's Causeway. Long time ago. Searching for peace and serenity.

He is the Most Merciful of the Merciful. Believe in Him.


Salthill.
21 Syawal 1434H