Monday, May 25, 2009

enough!! i hate it... part 2


salam to all.

lets continue!
ready your brain!
human behavior. lately, i have observe so many different types of people.
n someone ask me;
"does the quote just be urself exist?"
yeah, this question really bother me.
people always use this quote.
but does it really exist??
why i'm asking?

lets go through this situation.
someone said "aku adalah aku"
no offense ek.
this is my opinion.
different people different view.

yup, it is true human are unique.
they have different behavior.n bla2... (please, refer to my previous post)
but then, to think bout it again.
in Islam, we have guideline.
of course, all Muslim want to be a good Muslim,soleh/solehah
so, their target is the same.
the different is the way to achieve that.

are the words personality and behavior same, aren't they?
behavior is manner of behaving or acting.
whereas personality is the pattern of feelings, thoughts, and activities that distinguishes one person from another.
Colerigde said "Personality is individuality existing in itself, but with a nature as a ground. "

i'm currently reading a book entitle Personality Theory from 3 perspectives ( Islam, east & west)- in malay
seriously, it is interesting.
in Islam, we have Sufisme theories. which is relate to inner self, nature, knowledge and personality development.
basically, pleaser refer to your manual...... Quran.
according to Adler, the important thing for human being is mental health. He said personality is depends on 6 factors which are kendiri kreatif (in english, unknown..hhehe), lifestlye, social, inferiority, superiority and fictional finalisme.
people behave according to what they believe. for example, Muslims are strong believe that there will be death, kiamat, alam barzakh, heaven and hell. thus, they do good deeds.

the most famous theory is from Freud. according to him, human pyscic can divide into three mainly factors which are preconscious, unconscious and conscious. human behaviour are control by Id and Ego stabilizied it. wow, it wasn't easy to describe this.
it is better for u to read by urself.
Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, Alfred Adler and more well-known psychologist from all over the world create theories about personality. and it shows human are soo cool. hehehe.
i wonder how they can come across this??


done with personality.
lets come back with behaviour.
what determines our behaviour??
do we determine ourselves the way we behave or are we in some way programmed to behave the way we do??
well, philosphers agree that free will and determinism determine our behaviour.
so, what is determinism?? according to TOK handbook, hehhe
it is based firmly on the belief the every even t must have a cause.
free will is based on the belief that humans are free to decide some, not necessarily all, of the ways they behave and that these decisions are not determined by previous event.

so, if anything happen to u, think first.
which one determine his or her behaviour??
don't simply get angry.

well, to make it short.
lets discover what is happening to me and why i create this post
lately, i'm being so emotional.
when ppl increase his/her voice. i would get upset.
when ppl don't text me or said salam/hello, i would get angry
when ppl avoid me, i would curious
when ppl upset, i would wonder
when ppl happy, i would jelous
when ppl saying bad things about me, i would cry
when ppl care for me, i would extremely happy

so, i'm so tired being emotional
enough! stop it! i hate it.
don't simply jump into conclusion, honey.
if ppl acting that way, there must a reason.
human have so different personality, different behavior,
thats why human are so unique
and thats why i'm suddenly create this post.
human behaviour.
the most brave ppl are the one who can control his/ her anger.
"sesungguhnya nafsu ammarah itu selalu menyuruh kepada kejahatan" surah Yusuf, 53

in a conclusion, habluminaAllah, habluminnas, jaga hubungan anda dan Allah, dan jaga hubungan kamu dan manusia lain.
care ur friendship, care ur relationship with other ppl.
wallahu'allam.

p/s. dear friends, classmates, block mates, club mates, n segale mates la. huhuhu.. sorry for all my wrong doings in sem 2. adoyai. i know it had been a long sem for all of us with soo many events. i hope u will forgive me. maybe without i realized, i had hurt your heart, your feelings. i'm sorry if i had done that. friends ek? for this coming new sem, i will try hard to be a better muslimah. hoping some support from u all. ukhuwah fillah!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

i, would have to simply agree with every being in this world has their own unique personalities. but, at the same time, we also have the basic nature deep inside us which is the same throughout the universe, and it is al-fitra.

=)

and sometimes, i just feel like reverting to my old, less-emotion-driven self. but i know, i can't afford such act. especially in the road i'm walking. in as-sabil Allah.

so the best way is to be mature, where rationalism dominates over emotion. yeah, i think like it that way. well basically, sometimes.

=)

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